Ultimately, “lipstick under” is a metaphor for the human condition. We all wear things beneath the surface—grief under a smile, ambition under a shy demeanor, rage under politeness. For women, the lipstick has become a shorthand for this duality. It is the color of blood, of life, of anger, and of love. To wear it where no one can see it, or to wear it boldly as a sign that you refuse to be erased, is to understand that the most important audience is not the world outside, but the woman looking back from the mirror.

Psychologically, this act is a form of what the artist Hannah Höch called the “symbolic armor.” When a woman applies lipstick, she is often not merely “making up” her face; she is defining her boundaries. For centuries, female bodies have been public property—critiqued, catcalled, legislated. The application of lipstick reclaims the most expressive part of the face: the mouth. By drawing a sharp, deliberate line around her lips, a woman asserts control over her own narrative. She decides what will be seen and how. It is a mask, yes, but it is a mask of her choosing .

However, we must be cautious not to romanticize this entirely. “Lipstick under” also carries a shadow—the weight of expectation. Women are often told to “put on a brave face” (literally and figuratively) while enduring harassment, grief, or burnout. The “lipstick under” the tears is a patriarchal trap as much as a liberation. It is the expectation to remain pretty while in pain, to be polished while being oppressed. The true power of the phrase lies in the distinction: Is the lipstick a shield you chose, or a cage you were forced into?

In many parts of the world, the phrase evokes the literal image of the “burqa lipstick.” There are women in restrictive societies who, bound by law or custom to conceal their faces behind a veil, paint their lips a brilliant crimson or deep plum before stepping out. No one will see it. The male gaze does not reach it. The morality police cannot punish it. Yet, the act is not pointless. It is a private ritual of selfhood. That stripe of color, hidden from the world, is a secret handshake with the self. It says: I am still here. The world may demand I erase my face, but I refuse to erase my identity. The lipstick under the veil is not for the viewer; it is for the wearer. It is a tiny, velvet revolution fought in the bathroom mirror.